So i came across a post on relationship, detailing how a woman should be treated and i couldn't help but tick off the list and thank my lucky stars.
I wondered why i used to think I was ok with sub standard. Why i thought my efforts would be enough.
Relationships are always and firstly a two way street. Both has to change for each other, and change together.
I made the mistake of being stubborn and insisting on someone who wasn't right for me. Of evolving and leaving my partner behind. Of assuming that he should know how to treat me. Of letting myself feel bored and disconnected with my other half. I made mistakes in this one.
But I learnt, and i want better. Everyone deserves better. Even him.
There is alot of work to be done. Nobody is ever perfect, but with the right ear and attitude, both needs to learn and change. Both needs to be on the same page.
I'm glad I am now heard and theres someone who wants to talk to me, no matter how big or small, important or not. I never knew communication was so important. Lesson learnt.
I hope the ticks wont disappear, and that the list gets longer.
1. who is willing to put work into the relationship ✔
2. mature enough to handle the responsibilities that come along with loving you. ✔
3. laziness has no place in a committed relationship.✔
4. treats you well without expecting brownie points or a pat on the back.✔
5. treats you well because you deserve it and he wants to see you with a smile on your face.✔
6. puts effort into conversations with you. ✔
7. Someone who listens when you speak. ✔
8. Someone who puts his phone down when you walk into a room.✔
9. puts effort into making you feel included. Someone who invites you out with his friends.
Someone who takes you out to dinner with his family. (Cant happen yet)
10. puts effort into the bedroom. attends to your needs. Someone who gives as often as he receives.✔
11. puts effort into planning dates. Someone who chooses the place and time so you are not stuck making all the decisions. ✔
12. pays attention to what you want to do on weekends and makes it happen.✔
13. does as much for you as you do for him. ✔
14. understands relationships are a two-way street and should never become one-sided. ✔
15. recognizes your worth and makes sure you recognize it too.✔
16. puts effort into loving you every single day✔
17. makes you feel appreciated for all of the little things you do instead of making you feel like you are taken for granted. ✔
18. makes sure you realize how loved you are instead of making you wonder whether anyone cares.✔
19. puts effort into every aspect of your relationship. ✔
20. texts you in the morning to let you know you have been on his mind.✔
21. picks up snacks for you when he goes shopping so you always have something in his fridge to eat. ✔
22. spends hours searching for (or handcrafting) the perfect gift for you because he believes you only deserve the best.✔
23. who does the dishes and laundry when you are having a rough day so you get a chance to relax. (Cant happen yet)
24. Someone who sprays on your favorite cologne before meeting up for a date with you✔
25. who offers to drive you and your friends to the club so you don’t have to take an Uber. ✔
26. who calls you when he is running late at work so you don’t worry about him.✔
27. who gives you compliments on your smile and eyes, along with your soft heart and hard work.✔
28. who puts effort into pursuing you and keeping you✔
